Every now and then my husband does the unexpected. I’ll have to admit that I truly enjoy it when it happens. This particular day it caught me totally off guard. Into the kitchen he came with 3 roses and a small handmade note with “I(an eye) love (a heart) you (u)” drawn with blue ink. It wasn’t a bought card, nor was it beautifully designed on the computer. It was especially made for me by my sweetheart. It wasn’t thought about for weeks and it didn’t take our saving account to purchase it. It was simply a moment in time that he paused and put his heart in to just a few dollars and a little bit of time all for me. The flowers were special, but not as special as the small, personally made note. My heart smiles upon the thought of that particular moment in time.

Being personal with the love of your life is so special. It is important to express how you truly feel concerning your love for him. Verbal expressions are great. They help us to overcome barriers that might hinder growth in our relationship. Written expressions are also great because they allow us to put our feelings into motion for the present and then they serve as reminders when times get tough.

As ladies, we can often be picky concerning what we like or don’t like; thus, hindering the spontaneous expressions of our mate. Fox example, I have often told my husband, “Don’t get me flowers on the expected occasions such as Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day. They are an easy gift.” Then, I see someone get flowers and I wonder why I didn’t get some. I have to chuckle at myself while writing this particular thought!

Someone has just asked me the secret to being married for 36 years. I quickly responded, “Give more than you take.” This single young lady had to think for a moment and repeat back to me what I said for it to sink in. When I put qualifications on what I want to receive that is definitely taking and not giving.

Love is a beautiful expression that God has instituted and allowed us to experience. He made us to be emotional, expressive beings and He wants us to experience His love directly from Him and through others to its fullest. But how?

  1. Know God’s love through the pages of His Word. “….God is love,” the Bible tells us in I John 4:8.
  1. Experience love through the love of God. God is an emotional God. He keeps our tears in a bottle according to Psalm 56:8. He loves us and He understands that we need love and we need to experience the feeling of love.
  1. Share God’s love with your mate. We can share God’s love by reading His Word together, praying together, and living our lives in accordance with God’s plan. Talk to each other about God’s blessings each day. Remind each other of His goodness through daily experiences. Galatians 5:13 reminds to serve one another, “by love serve one another.” Ephesians 5:2 clearly teaches us to actively and daily experience love. “And walk in love as, Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.”   You cannot experience what you do not participate in.
  1. Give more than you take. God loves us so much that He gave his only Son to pay for our sins. “Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.” I John 4:10. Let’s listen more and give our opinion less. Let’s learn the love language of our spouse and speak that language instead of trying to teach them to speak our language.

God wants us, His children, to experience expressions of love. Will you give and receive these expressions today?