We have all heard the phrase “Bury the Hatchet.” It is an old phrase that is used to describe two individuals who make peace. They have had a conflict, but they make a decision to put it away and become friends again. As I heard this phrase used recently, I wondered almost aloud how many Christians refuse to bury the hatchet or spend their time digging it back up?

Proverbs 17:9 says: He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends.

Make no mistake, because we are sinful beings, we will offend and be offended. Other believers will transgress against us. Christians will disappoint and hurt us. What should our goal be? Things broken need to be fixed. When our relationship with another believer is tainted, it needs to be addressed and repaired. According to Proverbs 17:9, our desire should be to resolve and forgive. In fact, the believer that seeks reconciliation seeks to love as Christ loved us. On the other hand, we can be unforgiving and harbor resentment when we are hurt. Solomon says in this verse that we will do great harm to the relationship if we continue to “bring up the matter,” refusing to forgive and reconcile.

The best of friends will have misunderstandings and conflict. Settle it today. A hallmark of born again believers is their desire to forgive and move on with life. Harboring anger and resentment (and even continuing to bring it up) is not of God.

Bury the hatchet…and don’t dig it up again.